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Relationship Advice On The Porn Conflict

Let’s be honest! Porn is a really important part of the internet, and that’s because it’s awesome, especially for men. It’s one of the easiest to grasp, exciting and accessible forms of entertainment of today. No matter if you are aroused or if you can’t sleep late at night or you do it just because you are born, you will surely watch at least 10 minutes of porn if you are alone in a room for enough time, with a computer and internet connection. Even if some try to deny watching porn or stay away from it, we all watch it and we sure like it, because otherwise, there wouldn’t be so much porn online. But pornography can be a real issue in our relationships and that’s because men and women have a totally different view on porn. Why the huge difference in opinions? Why are men so into it and some women so against porn? Well, the answer to these questions are not yet clearly stated, but we will try to understand it anyway and offer you our conclusions as relationship advice.

First of all, the biggest difference comes from the way we look at sex itself. For men sex is just an activity, which like any other, can be completely stripped of emotions and enjoyed for its pure pleasure. Stated more clearly, men can have sex, while women make love. For girls, the act of sex has a deep emotional connection. It’s really important with whom it happens, where it happens and when it happens. However, that doesn’t mean men can’t make love or women can’t have sex. It also doesn’t mean that all women are repulsed by porn. Some ladies really like porn, in all its form, especially when it’s written in a book and we refer it as erotica.

But for most of the women, hardcore porn is extremely repulsive. They see it as objectification and proof of absolute misogyny, so they have no tolerance for men who watch it. This could be a real issue in a relationship and many couples are confronting with such conflict. At least half the men who are in a relationship, can’t help it but lie to their partners about watching porn, and the other half don’t have a better time either.

Let’s get a little deeper and find out why women are so against their partners watching porn. The principle it’s simple. It’s the same reason for which men get yelled at or worst, get the silent treatment, when they glaze their eyes over another lady on the street or at the beach. Insecurity plays a huge role in it. Women see other women as a threat and they won’t understand that men can just look and not touch. Also, they don’t get that we look at other ladies just for the sake of looking. For us, browsing the market is absolutely genetic. It’s in our true spirit to look at everything nature has to offer. We also forget about the girls we look at really quick. But in the mind of your girlfriend, you are still thinking about the woman you checked out. She takes it as a threat or as a sign that you are not attracted to her anymore and she thinks the same about your porn.

Another issue is the fact that women see the porn stars as a model that can never be achiever. And it’s true, the idea of a porn star is pure fiction. We are not talking about the looks of their body, but about the concept of the woman who can do anything it takes to please her man. As you know, porn gets more and more hardcore, so all the extreme things you see there are hardly applicable in the bedroom and absolutely not pleasing for your lady. Some of the things are extremely painful and degrading. Even if they could be replicated in real life, the results will never be the expected ones. Free porn videos sites created an illusion for millions of men. As long as you know how to make the difference between kinky fantasies and real love making, you can have a happy relationship with your partner while still watching porn on the side.

The best relationship advice in these cases is an open communication within the relationship, which is the key to most of the issue that can arise in the bedroom or outside it. Try to talk with your partner and convince her that when you are watching has nothing to do with her, with the feelings you have for her or the way you perceive her as a sexual being. Also, under any circumstances, don’t project your porn fantasies on her. If she is a uninhibited spirit, she will come up with the idea of trying the things you see in porn, but never propose this to her, or the only thing you will be having that night will be your porn on the couch in the living room.

If you can’t convince her that porn means nothing for you, then you might need to be more careful about when and where you watch it. Just enter incognito mode when you visit a porn site and keep your guilty pleasure a secret. Let’s face it, even if she asks you to give up on porn and you actually give up for a week or two, eventually you’ll go back to watching naughty movies as soon as you are home alone. And it’s absolutely nothing wrong about it. Don’t overthink the situation and make it worst for your own peace, because watching porn is in no way the same thing as cheating. But be considerate about your partner’s view on porn and her feelings. As long as you don’t let your favorite adult site get between you and the woman you love, things are completely normal.

 

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